Lovely question, isn’t it? I have a feeling that this generation especially wants to have it all. And best immediatly. But we all know that this can’t be it.
I believe that you, that I, that we all can have it all! But not at the same time. Let me give you some quick examples of my thoughts:
- You can totally be discovering and nurturing only yourself because as for now you chose to focus on YOU! And not to focus on children or a boyfriend.
- You totally can be in love with your man. You can totally and especially focus on your romantic relationship you have with your hubby/wife and putting not so much effort in your career at the moment. That’s so magical too and this can be a great foundation for later!
- You can totally put all you have into your career and not focusing too much on your relationship at the moment, because for now you want to achieve some goals in your career life.
- You can totally be at home with your children and giving them all your love! Not focussing too much on a career because your heart and hands are filled with your children!
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Start where you are doing what you can!
It’s all just so fine. You just need to let go the pressure of doing it all at the same time and all alone. I mean there’s time for whatever you want to do NOW and there will be time for other things in your future. You decide what you do in which order.
If you have kids in your house you may know that this is not really the time to focus only on your romantic relationship. Why? Because the family building thing is on. Because you are now focusing on your family as a whole. Which should not mean that you should forget your relationship by the way.
This is an interesting article on this topic. It’s true it’s not the easiest thing to balance a family, work and own life schedule. It’s true. And equality is by far not reached yet. But that was not the question. The question focuses on having it all which is possible; only not at the same time.
We can be very sexy women having time all day for sex and yoga but probably not when we have our babies and toddlers on our schedule all day long.
We can be tough business women but probably not when we just gave birth to our first child and are in the midst of re-orientation.
So what to do now?
Just be you my dear! START WITH A GOAL DEAR TO YOUR HEART! Like a new job or a some funky super special couple goals. Or go with a goal for you and your soul like HEALING THE SHIT OUT OF YOU or scuba diving! Find the thing that NOW matters most to you and all the other things will come to you when the time is right or when you make them happen 🙂 !
The secret to having it all is knowing you already do. Got that? Of course there are needs and dreams and wishes and goals! But in yourself you already have everything to start this day and to live and to create your life the way you dream of it.